It took me until my thirties to realize not all people jive, that it is ok to speak up and piss people off, and that sometimes you can do or say nothing at all and people may not like you "just because". I don't think you can be ok with this until you really are comfortable in your own skin, and you see the relevance in trying to please people is irrelevant.
The before me would never return a meal prepared the wrong way, or ask the Dunkin Donuts workers if they are running the 99 cent latte special. I realized that being silent it situations that are "all business", shouldn't matter how I "look" or "seem", but the main priority be watching out for me.
The young women I was before needed to attempt to be friends with all of her peers, even if they clearly weren't "her type". Luckily when I am at the playground or taking a class, it is clear to me what will blossom and is worthy of some energy on my part, and what is not. This is a blessing, as wasted energy on relationships going no where is just that...wasted, when really it could be used on my family, and true friends. It is so freeing to be at a place in my life that I can actually decide if a disagreement, misunderstanding, or growing a friendship, is even worth processing. For once in my life I have heard myself say "no".
The funny part about this change is living in our new found "facebook generation", and seeing people from all parts of your life on there. People you tried so hard, too hard, to be likable. People that wronged you, made fun of you, or that you did that to. The vulnerable person I use to be sometimes comes out with the ol' non-friends that use to torture me, that are now "friending" me. The beauty of being 32 and in a better place is I can deny their friendship, or I can add them and see what they are up to hoping they are miserable, ugly, and single.
I used to be told your twenties are when you grow up, and define you, however I am certain it is thirties. I am pretty sure on who Aimee is, and I am sure as I get older I will only learn more. Sure I miss the fun twenties when life was about drinking a good cosmopolitan, at the hippest city bar/club, singing P. Diddy's "Mo Money Mo Problems" at the top of my lungs. The thirties however, that is when life lessons and secrets start to become apparent, and I am so happy I know what is important.

